Hello there. I am well pleased that you have found your way to Me. You may have found your way here in a search for a Femdom... for Myself, I prefer the term Themdom. I believe this is the term that best captures My essence as a gender-bending Dominant practitioner of the arts of BDSM. If you'd like to learn more about Me, you've come to the right place. While I recommend that you read this section thoroughly, if you'd like to skip the details click here for My services.
It was nearly 3 years ago that I began the journey of sexual healing and fulfillment that led Me to this work. My sexuality as a young person with a feminine body felt prescribed, something that did not belong to Me. In 2017 a long-term relationship that was sucking the life out of Me came to a painful end. The ripple effect of this major change on all facets of My life was a catalyst that sent Me on this journey towards embracing My queer identity and discovering My Dominant desires. One morning I woke up with a powerful sexual fantasy involving Myself, a woman, and a man in a submissive role. As I thought more about this fantasy it grew, transformed, took on new life in My erotic imagination. This fantasy made Me feel like the powerful sexual being I always had the potential to become. This fantasy gave Me a sense of power and control over My desires and sexual expression, something that was completely new to Me...
So I jumped on FetLife and other dating apps to explore this fantasy of Mine. As I engaged with submissive men I learned more about the world of BDSM and kink. One thing became clear from the moment I engaged in this play: I was a natural. In the early online chats in which submissive men began to share their fantasies, I entered a state of flow from which I intuitively knew where to take the story of our play. I read voraciously about BDSM, kink, and safe play. When I felt ready I jumped on Grindr, presenting Myself as a new Dominant eager to find subs with whom I could carefully learn. I found multiple play partners on this platform, a few of which I continue to play with today.
Since this journey began I have honed My craft, played with multiple partners and completed numerous workshops. There came a point in this journey that I noticed how many of My personal resources were going towards being a safe and skilled Dominant. While I love the play, it is definitely hard work. Work that I love, but work nonetheless, and as such I feel a need to be compensated for My labour. This hard work includes skill acquisition, learning about a sub's fantasies, boundaries and desires, the energy it takes for Me to bring them to life, and now the administrative side of running a social media presence and website.
In January of 2020 I began to build this business as a ProDomme. You will see that My rates reflect the lower end of the industry standard as a Domme that is new to the scene. I am here because I love this craft, and I wish to be adequately compensated by those who seek My attention, skills and labour in bringing their fantasies to life.
I continue to and always will be a Lifestyle Domme, with carefully selected submissives who serve Me outside of My ProDomme work. I am always open to taking on new submissives for a full time D/s dynamic. If you wish to be under My consideration for such a position, you must first book my time in a professional capacity. Do not expect to be considered after one session. Or two. Or three or more. It takes many months at minimum to demonstrate your devotion to such an extent that I will even consider inviting you into My life beyond the bounds of the workplace. These are highly coveted positions in My life for which very few meet my standard.
My natural style of domination has intoxicating sensual and nurturing elements. I am highly skilled in emotional support, a quality that is evident throughout the course of each and every session. My warm and welcoming demeanour is known for instantaneously putting people at ease. I am frequently a trusted confidant to those I engage with in all facets of my life. I aim to hold space in which you feel free and safe to divulge your wildest fantasies and explore the full range of your sexuality. I love to encourage My subs along a path of personal growth and help them to access their full potential.
Now I know you may be thinking that I sound soft... I caution you not to make the error of underestimation. I am a natural boss, ruler of the playground in My earliest memories. Once negotiations are complete I will guide you through a grounding exercise as we transition into our roles for the session in which I am in charge. I will enter a state of flow in which I access the intuitive instinctual nature of my erotic desire for control. With Me you can rest assured that as you transcend into the realm of subspace you are entrusting your physical and emotional well-being in firm and capable hands.
In contrast to My powerful nurturing instincts, I am harbouring an inner verbal assassin. In the dominant state I enjoy releasing My sharp tongue from the day to day shackles of social etiquette and discretion. If you are someone who enjoys the thrill of verbal humiliation and/or degradation, I will make you weak in the knees. That is, only at your request of course. It will take time for our D/s relationship to form before I am able express this side of My Dominance at full capacity. I must first learn your mind and become familiar with your limits and edges.
You can trust that I will always catch you when you fall... Right before building you back up again, taller than you were when you walked through My door.
Please see below for a list of my favourite kinks.
I identify as genderfluid, as there is a fluidity to My sense of gender identity and expression. My title, Mxtress, pronounced the same as Mistress, is spelled as such to honour My gender identity. I also enjoy being called Master, Mommy, Daddy, or Goddess from time to time. Do not call Me ma'am if you know what is good for you...
In My vanilla life, I most often prefer a masculine casual look. As a Professional Themdomme I default to expressions of My femininity in session unless otherwise requested, as this is what I believe to be most in demand. If you are curious about a gender-bending session with Me and My expressions of masculinity please do inquire. I am also open to respectful dialogue about My experience with gender.
I am particularly skilled with forms of gender play (gender affirmation, feminization, sissification), which I attribute to My experiences as a gender non-conforming person. I like to warp the rigid boundaries of the gendered boxes to which we have been confined. You may come to Me for play or support related to setting yourself free from the prison that is the societal expectations of you and your assigned gender.
In My vanilla life I have found that expression of My authentic self regularly involves pushing the envelope with regards to societal expectations. I don't fit neatly inside any of the boxes in which this world attempts to place us, and I have long given up trying. As you get to know Me you'll see that I am not one for conformity.
I am a skilled conversationalist who likes to get deep below the surface of each individual I have the privilege of keeping company. I love to learn from My clients while we share and expand our philosophies on life. I am an avid reader, hold two degrees, and am a wealth of knowledge in a variety of topics. I am able to comfortably engage with folks from all walks of life as a result of My experience as an outreach worker. I am trained in peer mental health support and I draw upon these skills frequently as I tap into the therapeutic potential of kink with clients who enjoy this side of play.
Don't see your favourite kink? Please feel free to inquire after taking a look at My hard limits. I am very open minded and enjoy exploring new forms of play. That said, I will never accept a session if I feel that I am not competent enough in the skills involved to provide safe play. When this occurs I will recommend another Domme who is better suited to your request.